As Indianapolis divorce attorneys, we find ourselves frequently trying to help clients determine why their marriage is in trouble and failing to determine if anything can be done to fix it. We firmly believe the grass is not necessarily greener on the other side of the fence. All successfully marriages–in deed all relationships-- boil down to work.
Particularly where there are children, divorce should not be taken lightly.
At a minimum, even if the marriage ends, gaining insights into why it faltered may keep you from making the same mistake in future relationships. Until recent years, Ciyou & Dixon, P.C. attorneys observed the same root causes for divorce: Money & Sex. We could rapidly distill the problem and help our clients.
These are always expanded upon to include some refinements:
- Financial problems.
- Role reversal (caregiver versus breadwinner).
- Physical health conditions.
- Drug and alcohol addiction.
Now in the midst of these challenges facing an even robust marriage, where one (1) in two (2) ends in divorce, we have observed and data now backs up that technology has created a whole type of disease afflicting the family unit. Two of the primary culprits are social networking sites and video games.
In fact, over the last several years, this phenomenon has received a great deal of attention in the UK and been the focus of international broadcasts on the BBC. What are the symptoms? Are they happening here? Those are the real questions.
Repeated reports demonstrate adults losing track of time, missing work, forgetting to eat and bath. Increasingly, UK women report their husbands would rather play video games than pay attention to them. Thus, preferring to be single, over second to video games, social networking sites and video games are increasingly being cited in divorce filings.
In the US, social networks have opened the new frontier in rekindling old flames. Interactive, virtual video games too play a role. There is even serious consideration about these maladies being a psychological or psychiatric diagnosis.
These on-line e-tools, designed to connect the world and provide an even greater depth of entertainment, appear to interact with some individuals, its victims, in similar ways to addictions, like compulsive gambling and drug or alcohol addiction.
Thus, the old sex-therapy directive to take the television out of the bedroom and limit the time watching it elsewhere, appears to provide sage advice to inoculate you and your family from this risk. The e-time couples and families spend on video games, e-mail, personal communications devices, social networking, and other like devices should be strictly limited.
Is your family one that sits at the dining table each connected to someone somewhere else, and communicating through electronic devices? This should be a warning sign. More personally, these devices should be minimized or eliminated in the bedroom. Presumably, this risk is more acute and dangerous to children as they are increasingly tethered to electronic devices.
The anecdotal evidence suggests the apparent solution is seemingly simple, good one-on-one family time. This reduces the risk of the electronic bug infecting your family. More importantly, it develops interpersonal and problem solving skills that are a key to a successful childhood and marriage. Take this pandemic seriously. It is an great threat to you.
If you do not do so, you may find the innocuous Christmas gift two (2) years ago, the X electronic toy of laptop, may undermine everything you know and believe in–your spouse and family. At Ciyou & Dixon, P.C. we hope this blog helps you gain insight into this real threat to your marriage and family. If so, we have made the world a little better place.
Ciyou & Dixon, P.C. is located in Indianapolis, Indiana and is available to consult with and represent clients throughout the State. Perhaps we may partner with you to address your divorce matters.