The Impact Upon Children in a High Conflict Custody Case
This blog discusses the importance of trying to resolve disputes in high conflict custody cases to try to avoid emotional harm to the children.
Often in high conflict cases involving child custody disputes, the single most important factor is ignored by the parties: “what is in the best interest of the child”. Many times, the conflict begins because one party, the non-custodial parent “wants” something, usually more time with the child, and the custodial parent is absolutely opposed. Both parties may have a variety of reasons for their positions. But ultimately the parties’ respective positions need to be in support of the child’s best interest.
From my experience as a family law attorney, initially, if one parent keeps the child away from the other parent when the child is very young, this may not only be damaging to the formation of the bond of the child but can lead to issues such as attachment disorders. This type of behavior creates great resentment in the party that is kept from the child and may set the stage for an all-out battle. This is not to say that there are certain situations and circumstances in which a party is protecting a child from a harm, such as endangerment or abuse, and is the basis for the lack of contact.
There are several books written on the subject of the impact upon children in the middle of a custody dispute or in the middle of parents that have outright hostility toward each other. The negative impact upon children can range from impairing the relationship with a parent, to destroying the relationship with a parent, usually the non-custodial parent. There are other lasting marks on the child’s emotional well being and ability to later form healthy relationships with others.
Even when the parties believe that they can hide their emotions and feelings toward the other parent from their children, they simply cannot. For the sake of your children, try to find a resolution.
Many times, to find a resolution to the conflict requires the assistance of an attorney, or court filings, mental health professionals, or custody mediation, but ultimately all decisions should be based upon the best interests of the children. We can help guide you through the process and challenges of high conflict custody cases.
This blog is written by attorneys at Ciyou & Dixon, P.C. who handle a full spectrum of child custody cases throughout Indiana. This blog is not intended as legal advice or a solicitation for services. It is an advertisement.